What Traits Do You Value Most About Yourself?

This is an adapted post from another one of WordPress’s blog prompts. The original reflection point was to pinpoint a main trait that I might value most about myself.

Turns out, I couldn’t keep to just one. My usual self had to ramble on, and you, my long suffering readers, get to read all about them!

Aren’t you the lucky ones, eh?!

So, in no particular order, here are the traits that I most value about myself.

I’m kind

I feel like I’ve spent my whole life being kind. This point does tie in with my number two trait below, but I’d like to talk a bit more about this one first.

Being kind has always come naturally to me.

I’m a millennial, which means I was born in the late 80s and was classed as a millennial kid.

Slight sidetrack: I was twelve when the year 2000 hit and everyone thought that computers would cease to exist because computer operating systems couldn’t compute the number 2 on a binary system. Yes, I’m a big nerd and was around for that.

Anyway, for this reason, from a very young age, I’ve heard phrases such as, “Kill them with kindness” and, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”.

I grew up with the cliche phrases that girls were told so as not to ‘rock the boat’ and to blend into the background.

Being kind was instilled in me from a young age. But, I quickly realised that I supposed I was a kind person. Not everyone was like me.

From not being able to even hurt a spider (yes, I’d be the one that gets the cup and paper sheet out to free said insect), to wanting to fight anyone that dares to discriminate based on sex, age, disability, race, or any other type of horribleness.

Some people didn’t like me being so kind, and some people decided they just didn’t like me full stop.

To the grumpy customer in a well-known shop who complained that I smiled too much, and complained that the ambulances going by her house would light up her living room through her net-curtains, I’m looking at you.

Those instances are for another post for another day.

As I’ve gotten older, the kinder I’ve become. I’m not sure why, but kindness really wins over racism/bigotry/hate of any type in my eyes.

I’ve watched people around me get more selfish, and I’ve self-reflected that I’ve become more selfless.

I care about EVERYTHING, sometimes too much

Self reflection over the years has made me realise that I care about a whole lot of things.

From insects (don’t get me started on the impact that insects have on our ecosystems and their resultant impact on the fragile balance of nature – I’m looking at you: butterflies and bees), to politics and the global stage.

My call girl era means that I care about giving a good service, every time. I’ve been asked about ‘my secret’ and what I’m doing during bookings to create such positive reviews.

I just care. The people I see have their own stories and lives, and I get to be a part of that for the limited time I spend with them.

Also, my teaching career means that I care deeply about every young person that crosses my path, and have been told that my strongest skill is the relationships I build with my students.

To dig a little deeper psychologically, I have a disabled brother. Those that grow up with a disabled sibling are more likely to have a career in the caring profession (teaching/nursing/personal carer/etc).

There are academic studies support this (here is just one I found to back this up). I only discovered this in recent years when a friend explained this to me.

Lowe and behold… I end up as a teacher.

Finally, I like to make people happy.

I think this point sums up the first two traits that I value the most.

Making people happy is really important to me. In fact, if the world was full of people that treasure making others happy, our world would be unrecognisable.

That said, I’m absolutely not recommending filling the world with people like me. Those with ADHD tend to have a strong sense of justice, high levels of empathy, and are very kind. However, the world would be in absolute chaos if we were all like me.

To sum up, I couldn’t pinpoint a trait that I value most in myself. There are three of them; all of them interconnected with each other.

Thanks for reading, my valued readers.

Toodles,
Lexi Rose
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