What Do You Enjoy Most About Writing?

I decided to use another of WordPress’ prompts as the question piqued my interest. As such, it necessitated verbal diarrhea in my brain that required me to force my figurative diarrhea onto you, my lovely readers.

Aren’t you the lucky ones?!

If you’d rather not read and have to listen to my brain drivel, please feel free to navigate away now.

If you’re still here, welcome to my inner thoughts expressing what I enjoy the most about writing. More specifically, this sex blog.

Let’s get stuck in!

This sex blog allows me freedom of speech

When I started escorting again, I knew eventually I wanted to get the blog going again. In my early twenties during university, I wrote a blog through the Adultwork system. I didn’t know it was possible to host my own blog on my very own domain, so I blogged there.

Adultwork promoted their blogging system as it helped to personalise you as an escort, and I completely agreed with them. But, I had no idea what I was doing.

Yes, I suppose, that blog gave me freedom of expression. But I didn’t write it for myself. I wrote it for my clients. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that! But I didn’t enjoy the writing I was putting out. Months would go by between posts, just because I had no idea why I was keeping a blog.

Fast forward to now, and this blog is my own. It’s self-hosted, meaning I have full control over it. There’s no risk of it being taken down since I’m hosted by an adult-friendly hosting company. Its a WordPress blog structure, which includes thousands of plugins that I can select or deselect, at my will.

Some of you reading this will know how much this blog means to me. I can finally, albeit anonymously, express my sexuality. Every word I write gives me that freedom that is so often suppressed for women.

This sex blog allows me to be tongue-in-cheek, sarcastic, humorous, and everything in-between

The amount of positive feedback I’ve had about this blog has truly blown my mind. I never expected to have so many readers, even more so to receive the personalised messages I’ve gotten.

I’ve talked before about the mental health blog I ran (read a little bit here), and how successful it was. But, it was serious. It required a level of professionalism and I took that very seriously. I couldn’t really write with sarcasm or wit; it wasn’t appropriate.

Now, though, I write what I feel. Sex is personal, and people want to read about it. Correct me if I’m wrong, but if I’m reading a sex blog, I wanna know it’s from a real person. The early research I did around sex blogging confirmed to me that I like to read about brutally honest sexual thoughts. I want to read about the humour in sex, and I don’t want anyone to sugar-coat the sex industry.

So, that’s what I set out to do. I don’t have a business plan. Yes, I’d like to explore different avenues with the blog in the distant future.

However, all I wanted to do with this lil ‘ol sex blog of mine was to talk about difficult subjects, honestly. I don’t care if you find it difficult to read. If you do find my content difficult to read, then you absolutely need to sit uncomfortably through the things I write about. Of course, I can’t force you to, but try. It might benefit you.

This sex blog allows me to write without filter, absolutely bursting bubbles for some

I touched on this point above.

Let’s expand.

I know that some of the stuff I write about as an escort is going to burst, oh wait, probably shatter some of your bubbles.

Honestly, I really don’t care. I’m not here to massage your ego. If you tell me that my attitude is appalling, that I should learn some manners and respect, it 100% isn’t about me. It’s about you.

I never had the confidence to stick up for myself when I was younger. I’m now 36, and I have a smidgen more confidence than I used to. That’s not to say hurtful words don’t upset me (I do have feelings, this post explains more).

Unfortunately for those fragile people out there that choose to communicate with an escort, don’t contact me if you expect obligated reciprocation, access to my time either verbally or written through text, or boring back and forth chit-chat.

Or, that I want to see your dick. I absolutely don’t want to see your dick, don’t flatter yourself.

This sex blog helps me to promote sex positivity, sex confidence and communication

More recently, I’ve discovered another passion of mine, thanks to my ‘lil sex blog. I’ve realised that I feel hugely passionate about promoting confidence and communication, sexually.

When meeting clients, I have found that people look to me for advice and consider me an expert in my field.

Flippin’ hell.

I definitely am no expert.

Or am I?

Imposter syndrome is a real struggle of mine.

I’ve been involved in the sex industry since 22, have a multitude of sex toys that I started collecting from aged 19, bought my mates sex toys, got bought batteries for secret santa…

But I do enjoy talking about toys, encouraging experimenting, whether solo, or in relationships, and 100% encourage discussion.

It’s so bloody important to be able to communicate what you do and do not like.

Like I said before, when I was younger, there was no chance in hell I’d tell the guy I was having sex with that I wasn’t gonna orgasm. I faked orgasms like they came out of my ears.

Now, though, I will direct if needed. If I’m not telling you what to do, know that I’m enjoying what you’re doing and don’t stop doing it.

This blog has been hugely liberating in letting me promote confidence and communication, whilst creating positive sexual freedom for everyone.

Heck, I’m already looking into a massage qualification, and even potentially becoming a sex therapist. My undiagnosed ADHD has me in full-throttle mode right now, thanks to this blog.

Thank you to each and every one of you that decides to tune in and read my blog. I’m humbled and thankful, every single day.

Long may that continue.

That’s all for now!
Tara,
Lexi Rose xx