Have you ever wondered whether penis size really does matter? Have you ever wondered what an escort might say?
Have I got the intel for you!
I’ve been asked this (many times) in the past, and I always say the same thing. No. Size definitely doesn’t matter, and there is a bunch of information on the Internet discussing this which I’ll cover today.
So, here’s why penis size does not matter.
Most women do not need huge penises to orgasm
The female G Spot is located around 3 inches inside. He is a useful image to show it:
So, actually, if you have a 3 inch penis, you’re actually more likely to reach her G spot, and give her a really good orgasm.
I’ve mentioned this before on the blog, but a LOT of women cannot orgasm through penetration only, around 2 in 5, or 40% of us (Huffpost). The study of 2000 adults mentioned in this article goes as far as saying that only 5% of women ALWAYS orgasm through sex, compared with 20% of men. As you can see, even men can’t orgasn 100% of the time during sex.
The point I’m trying to make here is that penis size does not matter, because most women need more than just being fucked hard to reach orgasm. That’s not to say we don’t love a good pounding, but variety and exploration is also really important to women in bed.
Most women don’t even orgaam through penetration
As mentioned above, orgasm through other means is preferable for a lot of us. I’ve written about this a bit in this post here (sex toys 101).
Here are a few links that you might want to explore:
- Medical News Today (Read here) discusses misconceptions around the female orgasm
- MindBodyGreen (Read here) discusses achieving the female orgasm in 11 steps
- Healthy Male (Read here) discusses penis size through literature and is well worth a read
- This YouTuber Watch here) discusses how many inches a woman actually needs, from a surgeon and based on science.
There are lots of other ways to enjoy each other’s body that doesn’t involve being fingered vigorously or being pounded. Some of us, me included, prefer sensual, slow and exploratory approaches. Toys always make things more fun in the bedroom, but it is by no means an indication that you aren’t good enough in bed if she whips her toys out.
Actually, if she has the confidence to bring out her toys to share with you, that’s a good thing! It means she has the confidence to bring it up, something I definitely struggled with in past relationships.
Girth is more important that length (and there are tools to increase girth)
Along with women only needing about 3 inches in length, personally for me, girth is much more important.
After doing a bit of research on this, it seems the many studies done now show that overall, women prefer girth. A recent study by a sexologist has concluded this. Read it here.
This will be something to do with the structure of the clitoris, and how close it comes to her actual vagina. This picture helps explain it:
If you feel a bit insecure about your girth and still want to please the woman you’re with, there are a few things you could do:
- You could use your fingers, gradually increasing how many you use, based on communication and how she responds
- You could try a penis pump (although I don’t know whether these actually work, I need to read more on that)
- You can get penis extenders which you attach to your own penis, allowing you to extend the length, girth or both
- Cock rings can help with girth and hardness, but is something else I need to read more on.
Don’t compare yourself to the dildos and vibrators you see women with – it is no comparison
When it comes to penis size and whether it matters, my final point is to absolutely not compare yourself to the dildos and vibrators you see online or in pornos.
Firstly, porn is unrealistic as to how most of us conduct our bedroom antics. A lot of the things you see in porn caters for kinks and fantasy. Most women can’t perform the things that those experienced pornstars do, me included.
The same goes for dildos. Some women love to be stretched out by huge apparatus, again fulfilling porn fantasies.
Also, when you look at vibrators, you’ll notice that their size isn’t ridiculous, and focuses more on the clit, too. I did quick image search on vibrators and this is what came up:
You can see that the shape and size is nothing like a penis, mostly because their use differs from a dildo. Also, like I said before, a lot of women need other stimulation than just penetration.
In conclusion, penis size absolutely does not matter. What matters, is how much you want your partner to enjoy herself with you, so you can both enjoy the time you spend together.
Ta ta for now!
Lexi Rose xx
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