Good evening all,
This blog post has been inspired by recent events that has finally pushed me to put words-to-screen!
Firstly, I’d like to say thank you to everyone that has been reading the blog, readers both old and new. As always, the feedback has been so positive and I’m really glad about that!
Also, I’d say that 90% of recent interactions have been great. I’m very grateful for that. I’ve put that down to limiting interactions through a certain website and their in-built communication system.
Of course, though, I still get messages that aren’t appreciated. This can apply to booking an escort – but, thinking about it, probably online dating, too.
So, here are seven do’s and don’ts when getting in touch with a woman.
1. Don’t confess your love around my profile pictures and what you want, without any specifics
Now, don’t get me wrong – compliments aren’t a bad thing. Nor is knowing what you want or like. As much as I’m terrible at taking compliments, that’s not the issue here.
The main issue is that there’s no mention of a booking. This leads me to think that your message is to indulge in your own fantasies and draw out conversation from me. I shouldn’t have to reply by asking when you’d like to make a booking. I’ve done this before, and it usually ends up being a long, drawn out conversation leading to me being ghosted. No thanks.
I’ve read this type of message so many times that I can spot it a mile away.
When there’s no specific mention of a booking with a date and time, I’m unlikely to respond.
2. Do make sure your spelling, punctuation and grammar is *minimally* okay
When I say this, I’m not expecting Shakespearian English or degree-level writing. All I’m saying is, don’t message with the following:
Hi available today and where you located near
This was a message I received today. I could pick this apart, but I won’t. I’m sure you can see why I didn’t reply to this message.
3. Don’t send a message that includes nothing about a booking
Linked with point one and 2, I really appreciate messages that mention a a date and time. Otherwise, it feels like I’m trying to get blood out of a stone. Think of me as a service provider; that’s what I am. Would you contact your doctor just to chat? Would you contact a barbers/hairdresser with vague mention of what you want without a specific booking? You wouldn’t, would you?
It’s the same for me. Don’t waste my time.
4. Do read my profile
I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before but, please, please, please read my profile. There’s nothing worse when I’ve spent time updating the text part of my profile for it to be completely ignored.
Use my name in your message. I know instantly whether you’ve read my profile if you include my name in your message. Instant points if you do this, and I’m 100% more likely to read your message.
5. Don’t be pushy with messages
Pushy messages are a huge turn-off, no matter the platform you’re messaging a woman on. Pushiness over virtual message equates to a slim-to-none likeliness of an in-person meeting.
Sometimes, it’s hard to put a finger on when messages come across as ‘pushy’ to me.
However, those messaging me that have no intention of booking, that want to fantasise, that can’t take no as an answer, that expect sex workers to be at their beck and call, just to name a few examples, may come across as pushy in their messages.
Some of us do have pretty good reading skills. Some of us are extremely emotionally intelligent, too.
So, yeah. Don’t do it.
6. Don’t continuously message if I don’t reply
Linked with the above, a recent example looked like this:
It was tiring to say the least. I know that the sender was watching and waiting for me to read the message before sending a new one minutes later. That was unnerving to say the least. After probably seven or 8 messages, I had to block them.
So, there you have it! Six very clear do’s and don’ts of letting me know that you’re not worth my time.
Toodle-pip!
Lexi Rose
xx
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