Have you ever wanted to explore having sex in riskier and more public/outdoor places?
I know I have.
I particularly enjoy the fantasy of having risky outdoor sex, but rarely follow through with it.
For me, the fantasy of outdoor sex is more thrilling than actually going through with it. A Vice writer has actually already talked about this, read it here.
As sickening as it is, even flipping Katie-right-wing-racist-batshit-crazy-Hopkins has had sex in a field.
So, I wanted to talk more about it today!
Specifically, I wanted to talk about the positives and the negatives, giving a fair review of this type of sex.
You may have read a recent article I wrote about kinks and fetishes. Have a read here.
There, I talked about voyeurism and exhibitionism, along with a multitude of other kinks.
Outdoor and risky sex would fall into the voyeurism/exhibitionism category.
Let’s get into the nitty-gritty.
The pros
As always, fetishes and kinks float the boat for some (but not all) of us. We all have things we like and dislike.
Outdoor sex is thrilling
The main attraction, in my opinion, to having risky or outdoor sex, is that it’s thrilling. The risk of being caught can feel exciting. Being watched can also be a big turn on for some of us.
Excitement leads to arousal, and that can make the sexual experience more exhilarating.
If you’re wanting to try adding outdoor sex into your life, there are a few basic points to remember:
– Communicate with your partner above all else
– Don’t agree to anything you’re not comfortable with
– Be safe above all else
– Your emotional and mental health are paramount
Outdoor sex/risky sex could spice up your sex life
If you’re in a relationship, opening up your sex life and introducing outdoor or risky sex definitely could spice up your sex life.
Firstly, riskier sex might help to break the routine of bedroom sex.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with bedroom sex. I know I absolutely would prefer to be comfy in bed and have the freedom that comes with this.
But, for some, sex might become a bit monotonous. Bringing in a bit of risk into your sex life could definitely spice things up a bit. This type of sex could help break up the routine a bit.
Here are a few scenarios that come to mind:
– Car sex
– Sex in a field
– Sex in a hotel room window (where you could potentially be seen)
– Swinger club situations (where you can have sex whilst being watched)
If you have any further suggestions, feel free to comment and share!
Sex in nature can be sensual and sensory
If you’re considering having outdoor sex, no doubt you’ve thought about where you’d actually do it.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but outdoor sex to me means being in nature. I’m thinking of a field, park, or somewhere very secluded.
This means that both of your bodies are going to come into contact with different textures, smells and sounds.
Your senses are going to be heightened, and could be extremely sensual for you both. Very exciting indeed.
The cons
As the responsible sex worker and sex blogger I am, I wouldn’t be doing my job properly if I didn’t talk about the possible cons of outdoor and risky sex.
If you’ve followed along with my blog for a while now, you’ll know that I’m 100% behind sexual liberation and exploration.
But, there are limits. Specifically, legal limits.
So, let’s talk about a few of the cons when it comes to outdoor/risky sex.
Legal risks around outdoor or risky sex
There are possible charges of indecent exposure and other legal consequences.
The Terrence Higgins Trust has a very thorough article as part of their section on improving your sexual health. I’d recommend reading it here.
What I’d like to hone in on, is the bit around sexual offenses in the UK.
There’s still a real possibility, when engaging in outdoor or risky sex, that you might be caught and someone might report you.
None of us want to be approached by the police, let alone being accused of exposing one’s genitals.
Hygiene issues
Another aspect of outdoor sex/risky sex is possible hygiene issues
Wherever it is that you decide to have outdoor sex, you’ve got no idea what germs, bugs or bacteria inhabit that area.
As a woman, dealing with UTIs and cystitis are problems I have to think about even in a clean bedroom or hotel room.
Introducing grass, cleaning products, soil, insects, etc, etc. poses a real risk to your genitals. Having sex with these risks makes it even worse.
It’s important to weigh up whether the risks and adrenaline involved in risky sex is worth the possible infections and treatment you might have to go through afterwards.
Real Talk: Free, Accessible Sexual Health Education has also created a video which addresses the risks around outdoor/public sex. Defo worth a watch.
In conclusion
As much as I’d love to tell you that you should go out and live out your hedonistic wishes, I won’t.
It’s really important to consider the person you want to bring with you on your outdoor/risky sex exploration.
Not only that, but there will always be consequences to actions that might possibly affect others.
By all means, explore your fantasies. Just make sure they don’t affect other people.
That is all.
Much love,
Lexi Rose xx
