This anonymous submission to the blog brings a unique perspective into what it’s like to have an escort as a partner/wife.
It’s an interesting and insightful read, and a topic that comes up often as part of my work.
I’m a normal guy with a normal job. I just happen to have a partner who is an escort. I’ve been asked to give my thoughts about this subject.
So, you’ve probably got some preconceived ideas about what kind of man could be the partner of a sex worker.
If any of the following questions have entered your head, you’re not alone.
“I couldn’t be with someone who slept with other men”
“Am I not enough for her? Is this a reflection on our relationship?”
“Does she enjoy the sex she’s having with her clients?”
There must be many other questions that – as the partner of a sex worker – you’d expect to be floating around your head.
My answers may not be what you would expect, but it’s an insight into how I think and feel.
I wake up in the morning, go to work from 8 till 4.30 Monday to Friday.
In the most stripped back term there is, I sell my time to my employer in return for the job I do.
Is what my partner does any different?
She sells her time in return for money.
To me, there is no difference. We’ve discussed this at length, and that’s probably the most important aspect.
Communication
Without communication, any relationship is going to fail ultimately. You’ve got to be open and honest with each other.
Thankfully, we’ve got such a good relationship that we can and do talk about her work.
Being involved and taking an interest and being supportive makes everything a lot easier.
This brings me on to another important aspect.
Trust
There has to be 100% trust in this kind of dynamic.
My partner is having sex with other men (and sometimes women) at the end of the day!!!
It takes a strong mind to not get consumed with the thought of the physical activities that your partner is being paid to do.
There’s also the fact that she may take a job in the evening when all I want to do is sit and cuddle up on the sofa.
The job does come with a lot of sacrifices, but as long as any niggles and worries are talked about as soon as they arise, then they can be quashed.
When she’s working, she has her alter ego (of course she has a working name) and she gives her all to the job. Sexy outfits, lingerie, high heels etc…
I can see why guys would want to book her, as she always looks drop dead gorgeous when she leaves.
She always checks in before and after so I know she’s OK. Having details of the booking and her sharing her location is an added level of security for us both.
She keeps nothing from me, we discuss her bookings (you should see some of the messages she gets!) and if she’s had a bad or a good time whilst on a job, we’ll talk about it.
She has to deal with loads of time wasters who just want to ask questions that could have been answered if they would have read her profile…
“How much do you charge?”
“Do you do bareback?”
And she gets messages at all hours of the night. Many a day we’ve gone to sleep around midnight and woken up to 4 or 5 missed calls and loads of messages.
It’s all part of the job, I guess…
Sometimes I take her phone and reply, just so she doesn’t have to deal with them.
It’s frustrating, and having to reply politely to these people can be difficult when all you want to say is “If you’re not gonna arrange a booking, do one.”
You can tell immediately which of the messages she gets is genuine.
If you’re wanting to book an escort, do not message “Hey babe x” as your first message.
This isn’t Tinder, it’s a business transaction. A better example would be “Hi. I would be interested in making a booking with you for 1 hour on Friday around 7pm. Can you let me know if you’re available?
If I could offer any advice to guys wanting to book an escort it would be this.
Read their profiles for availability and likes/dislikes.
Do a bit of research before contacting your chosen escort. And when you do, don’t be a dick!!!
Final thoughts
Of course it’s possible to have a relationship with a partner who is a sex worker. Yes, it’s not conventional, but she’s doing exactly what I do – exchanging time for money.
Thanks for reading! Toodledo
Lexi Rose xx
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